A Mother’s Natural Approach to Aging

Jillian Pretzel’s mother, at 62, avoids makeup, Botox, and fillers in Southern California, where cosmetic enhancements are common. Their region holds high beauty standards, with procedures like microneedling and chemical peels being routine for many. However, her mother shows alternative ways to face aging.

The author’s mother opted out of cosmetic products, imparting an important lesson about aging. This choice, which seemed simple, carried significant implications that her daughter gradually came to understand.

Why She Chose Not to Wear Makeup

The author’s curiosity about her mother’s decision led to a conversation that revealed a pivotal moment. Her mother was in college when she became disinterested in makeup. Observing her roommate spend extensive time on expensive makeup, including separating lashes with a pin, she quickly decided against it.

I already couldn’t believe the time and money she spent on her face.

This choice was driven by practicality and a desire to avoid unnecessary expenditure and risk.

A Shift in Perspective in Her 40s

The author’s mother faced another turning point in her 40s, as friends began using Botox and investing in cosmetic surgeries. She rejected these paths, deciding against beauty routines. Her resolution extended to giving up even minimal makeup for special occasions.

Her simple choice was not a statement against cosmetics, but rather prioritizing how to spend personal time and money wisely.

Learning from Her Mother’s Example

Raised with her mother’s influence, the author appreciated the stance of resisting beauty pressures. Although she engaged with makeup, including experimenting in her teens, her mother never discouraged these choices.

The author reflects on that day in the kitchen, understanding her mother’s decisions were about valuing time and personal priorities. Her mother’s approach highlights spending time and money on meaningful experiences over beauty products.

The author acknowledges her enjoyment of makeup at 35, recognizing it enhances her self-image. Despite appreciating the allure of Hollywood glamour, she values her mother’s perspective. Her mother’s natural face, shaped by time rather than cosmetics, provides her a glimpse of her future.

This insight offers a reassurance about self-acceptance and embracing one’s natural appearance. The author’s connection with her mother’s choices emphasizes loving one’s self independent of societal standards.