Raising Children in the Hamptons: Emphasizing Values Over Wealth

Living in the Hamptons year-round offers a unique environment for children. This area is often linked with luxury and wealth. My kids grow up surrounded by beautiful homes, boats, and designer shops. Despite these surroundings, our family is not wealthy. I aim to teach my children that happiness doesn’t stem from expensive things or exclusive places.

Prices in the Hamptons can reinforce the wrong notions. For example, at Candy Kitchen in Bridgehampton, two eggs cost $10.95, while pancakes are priced at $12.95. At some places, a smoothie might cost more than $30. Even a simple ice cream outing can be costly. Two frozen yogurt sundaes often cost around $28.

To prevent my children from thinking these prices are standard, I encourage them to manage money. I tell them to bring money from their piggy bank if they want to buy candy or cards. This teaches them that money is finite and precious.

However, enjoying local activities is also part of growing up. Not just luxury stores, but places like Kites of the Harbor offer kids a sense of nostalgia. Browsing toys or handmade home decor can be part of their childhood. It is vital to find this balance.

Discussing Finances Openly

We talk about finances and savings in ways my children can understand. I don’t hide the reality that not everything is affordable. Spending their own money makes them consider the value of what they buy.

Some of the best local experiences cost nothing. We utilize library resources which include free classes, activities, tutoring, and museum passes. Our family participates in community events, spends time at the beach, and explores nature.

We watch sailboats in the harbor and engage in activities like paddleboarding and crabbing. These moments help my children perceive the Hamptons as a home, not just a place of luxury.

Teaching Practical Skills

Imparting resourcefulness is crucial. We make homemade items and work with what we have. My children learn practical skills, including cooking, styling hair, sewing, and basic repairs. They also learn to be organized and self-reliant.

I encourage my children to consider future income potential when choosing activities. Simple hobbies like ice-skating and tennis can transition into work. A tennis skill might lead to working in a tennis shop, while a strong skater could become an instructor.

My goal is for my children to leave home equipped to take care of themselves. I want them to appreciate what they have and focus on what they can contribute to the world.

In essence, the Hamptons will always present opportunities for comparison. My job is to offer my children a stronger set of values by focusing on personal contributions and finding joy in simple surroundings.

Courtesy of the author